Serious question, is it better to cut toxic family out or keep trying to fix things?

My sister told me last week that I'm 'the problem' for not visiting enough, but when I do visit she just criticizes my job and my life choices, so now I'm wondering if setting a hard boundary or cutting contact is the real boss move here, has anyone dealt with a sibling who just drains all your energy no matter what you do?

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jason7528d ago

Three visits in a row she started with "so still at that dead end job?

blairstone8d ago

I told my brother straight up after three years of this pattern, "I'm taking a six month break from us." That was two years ago and it was the best thing I ever did for my own head. You don't have to cut them out forever, but a hard pause lets you see if they even notice or care that you're gone. If she just uses that time to badmouth you to relatives, then you already have your answer. Sometimes the real boss move is protecting your own peace instead of beating your head against a wall.