Question about forcing friendships to happen vs letting them grow

I used to think making friends as an adult meant you had to schedule regular hangouts and plan everything out, like a project. Six months ago I met a neighbor while we were both stuck outside fixing our fences after a storm, and we just chatted for 20 minutes without any plan. That turned into a real friendship just by running into each other and saying hey. Now I don't try to force weekly coffee dates or game nights anymore, I just pay attention to who I naturally bump into and give it time. Has anyone else noticed that the best adult friends come from low pressure situations like that?

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kellyg141d ago

That neighbor fence story is exactly how I met my best friend of five years now.

skylerm551d ago

Totally agree with @kellyg14 on that. I've noticed the same pattern, like at my local grocery store and the gym, those quick hellos and small chats build into something real way better than planning group dinners ever did.