Read a thing from some university saying the average adult has only 3 close friends. That seems way too low to me, honestly. How many people do you actually count as a real friend?
Found it in an article from a university blog last week. They were talking about how adult friendships naturally fade if you don't put in work. It hit me because I just moved to a new city, Denver, and my old friend group feels so far away now. I counted and realized I only talk to maybe two people from my college crew regularly. The study said it's normal, but it still feels weird and kind of sad. It made me think I need to be more active about setting up calls or planning visits, not just liking their posts. Has anyone else had to really push themselves to keep old friends close after a big move?
It just stopped after someone moved for a new job, and I didn't know whether to text everyone individually or just let it go. How do you even restart a conversation that's gone cold like that?
A buddy from my old job pitched me on investing in his food truck last spring. He said he just needed startup cash for a used truck in Austin. I gave him $400, which was supposed to be for a deposit. Six months later, he hasn't even gotten a permit and stopped returning my texts. Part of me thinks I should have known better, but another part feels like you have to support your friends' dreams. Has anyone else been in this spot with a close friend and money?
When our company switched to full remote, I thought it would be fine. But over time, I saw my close chats with colleagues drop off. We used to grab coffee and vent about clients, but now it's just Zoom calls. I MISS those random hallway talks that led to real connections. Now, everything is scheduled and feels forced. I tried setting up virtual happy hours, but they fizzle out fast. It's HARD to keep friendships alive when you're not sharing the same space. I wonder if others feel this too.
If you can't share a meal from your home, you're not building the TRUST we need as adults.
My one-on-one talks now feel real and help us connect on a deeper level.