Stop planning "friend dates" like job interviews and wondering why nobody calls back

I'm talking about those meetups where you ask each other what you do for work, where you live, how long you've been in town, and then it's basically like a Q&A session. Last month I met a woman at a book club thing and she literally pulled out a notebook to ask me about my "friendship goals." I get that people want to be intentional, but it felt like I was applying for a position. Why does everything have to be so structured? Has anyone else just had better luck with a random text like "I'm at the park with takeout, want to sit on a bench and complain about the weather for 20 minutes?"

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sethb4522d ago

The notebook thing is a bit much for sure, but asking basic stuff like jobs and neighborhoods is just normal small talk, not an interview. People gotta start somewhere to find common ground.

the_lucas21d ago

Pile on top of that the way people treat shared hobbies like a resume. I joined a hiking group once and someone asked what my "outdoor experience level" was and if I had any "wilderness certifications." Like man, I just wanted to walk up a hill and see some trees. The whole notebook thing makes it feel like people are trying to optimize friendship like it's a side hustle instead of just letting it happen naturally. The park bench text is way more real because it's low pressure and shows you're already doing something you enjoy, not treating the whole thing like a scheduled performance review.