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I used to let my dad borrow money every single month, no questions asked.
For years, it was just what I did. He'd call, say he was short for his car payment or a bill, and I'd send $200. Never kept track. Figured it was family. Then last year, my own car needed new brakes, cost me $800, and I realized I had nothing saved. That was the wake-up call. I sat down and added it all up. Over three years, I'd sent him almost seven grand. I finally told him I couldn't do it anymore. It was the hardest talk I've ever had. He was upset, but I had to set that limit for my own future. How do you handle it when a family member keeps asking after you've said no?
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victorw955mo ago
Did you try just saying it's not in the budget anymore? I had to be a broken record for a bit, just repeating the same simple "I can't right now" until it stuck.
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blair8955mo ago
Feel you, I used to think that way too.
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patricia424mo ago
Remember when being a broken record felt like a personal failure? I used to think I needed a new, clever excuse every single time. Turns out my best script is just "nope" on repeat.
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