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Showerthought: I used to just nod along when my mom asked for money
For years, every time she called saying she was short for bills, I'd send $200 without asking questions. Then, about three months ago, she asked for rent money the same week she posted about a new expensive purse. I finally said I needed to see the actual bill before I could help. It was super hard, but now we have a rule where I pay the company directly. Has anyone else had to switch from giving cash to paying bills to stop the guilt trips?
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kelly_grant156mo ago
Feel for you, that's a tough spot. Setting that boundary was really smart, even if it felt awful at the time. Paying the company directly is a perfect solution, it helps without enabling. Good on you for making that change.
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taylor.matthew6mo ago
Appreciate the backup @kelly_grant15, that's exactly the right move.
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nancy_garcia635mo ago
Disagree on paying the company directly. That still ties you to their mess. What happens when the bill is late again? You're on the hook or you have to fight with the company. Real help is letting them face the full result of their own choices. Paying for someone teaches nothing.
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