Showerthought: I used to just nod along when my mom asked for money

For years, every time she called saying she was short for bills, I'd send $200 without asking questions. Then, about three months ago, she asked for rent money the same week she posted about a new expensive purse. I finally said I needed to see the actual bill before I could help. It was super hard, but now we have a rule where I pay the company directly. Has anyone else had to switch from giving cash to paying bills to stop the guilt trips?

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kelly_grant151d ago

Feel for you, that's a tough spot. Setting that boundary was really smart, even if it felt awful at the time. Paying the company directly is a perfect solution, it helps without enabling. Good on you for making that change.

taylor.matthew22h ago

Appreciate the backup @kelly_grant15, that's exactly the right move.