Tried setting a $200 spending limit with my sister for Christmas gifts and she showed up with a $500 bracelet anyway

I told her straight up no gifts over 200 bucks and then she hands me this thing and says 'oh but it was on sale' and now I feel like I can't even bring up the boundary again without sounding cheap, has anyone else had a family member just ignore a hard limit you set?

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abbyd363d ago

Honestly that's rough, but did she actually agree to the limit beforehand or did you just tell her and she ignored it?

jana1792d ago

OH WOW, classic case of "but I THOUGHT you meant something different" right? I swear some people could agree to a hard limit in WRITING and still pretend they didn't hear it when it's convenient. It's like they think boundaries are just suggestions that don't apply to them if they ignore them long enough. But honestly, I feel like both sides probably messed up here. If you just mentioned it once casually, that's not really an agreement, that's more like a heads up. But if she nodded and said "okay" and then did the exact opposite, that's a whole different level of frustrating. At the end of the day, if someone keeps pushing past what you said, you gotta decide if it's worth the fight or if you just let them figure it out the hard way. Some people only learn when reality hits them in the face.