Warning: Home is a wreck after every offshore job

Came back from a three-week dive to find dishes piled high and laundry everywhere. My spouse says they are too stressed to keep up, but I am tired too. How do you split home tasks when you are gone for work?

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william_rivera28d ago

Coming home to that mess is a gut punch. Ryanf66 has a point about unseen struggles, but three weeks of dishes is a real problem. Maybe your spouse could handle just one daily thing, like running the dishwasher, even if nothing else gets done. When you're back, you take over all the cleaning for a few days to reset. It's not fair, but sometimes you have to fix the system before it runs right.

the_christopher1mo ago

Dishes piled high after three weeks? That's just not right! How can your spouse let it get that bad? When I work offshore, we agree on basic chores that must get done. My partner handles daily stuff like dishes, and I tackle bigger jobs when I'm back. It takes clear talk and a solid plan to avoid this mess. You both need to sit down and figure out a system that works.

ryanf661mo ago

Sometimes life gets in the way of even the best plans. A new mom might be so tired from caring for a baby that dishes stack up unseen. Someone with bad back pain might avoid standing at the sink. It's easy to judge, but we rarely know the whole story. Systems help, but they can't fix everything when people are struggling.