Back when I thought stress was just part of adulting

I pushed through every bad day, telling myself it was normal. Now I see how much better life is with therapy and real self care. Why is it so hard to admit we need help sometimes?

5 comments

5 Comments

david_butler541mo ago

Man, I used to brush off stress too. But @susandixon nailed it, treating help like a tool makes all the difference.

drew_stone461mo ago

And thats the whole shift right there, what @david_butler54 is talking about. I totally saw getting help as this big sign I had broken, like my own fault for not being tough enough. Changing my view to see it as just a tool, like susandixon said, changed everything. It's not a failing grade on being a person, its just using what works. The hardest part was letting go of that story I told myself about having to handle it all solo.

susandixon1mo ago

You hit on something real with 'why is it so hard to admit we need help sometimes?' I used to believe asking for help meant I was failing at adult life. Start by telling one close friend you're having a tough time, it breaks the seal. We get this idea that being strong means doing everything alone, so it feels like a personal defeat. Going to therapy taught me that getting help is just using the right tool for the job. Now I see it as a practical step, not a moral flaw, and everything feels more manageable.

the_seth1mo agoMost Upvoted

Feel like it weakens personal strength sometimes.

shane_fox221mo ago

My buddy finally told his brother he was stressed, and it totally changed his view, kinda like what @drew_stone46 said.