Yeah I used to think that stuff was helpful too, but being put on the spot like that just makes it worse. lindab73 is right about the good intentions, but the timing feels like an attack. Now I just change the subject real fast.
Ugh, families mean well but they always pick the worst times for this stuff. It comes from a good place usually, but man it just makes you want to hide. Still feels pretty awful in the moment lol.