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Dad's money talks got way easier after he moved to a spreadsheet | Awkward Family Talks - Rigidtalk

Dad's money talks got way easier after he moved to a spreadsheet

Used to be a phone call every Sunday night with my dad, 20 minutes of him asking where every $50 went. He'd get frustrated, I'd get defensive, whole thing was a mess. Last year he bought one of those cheap over-the-door organizers and made a printed chart on it, tracks my rent and groceries and fun money in pencil. Now we just review it for 5 minutes when I visit, no drama. Has anyone else found that a stupid simple tool fixed a family money fight that talking never could?

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wells.reese2mo ago

Different take here. That pencil chart is basically you letting him watch your spending like a hawk, just with less talking. My old man tried the same thing with a whiteboard and it still felt like he didn't trust me, just quieter about it. The real fix for us was me paying my own bills and him seeing the bank statements once a month, no commentary from him. The tool didn't stop the fight, it just moved it from his voice to a piece of paper. Does that setup actually give you any privacy, or is it still his call on what "fun money" means?

janaw112mo ago

You're missing the whole point of the chart, @wells.reese. It's not about trust or privacy, it's about teaching a system before real money hits the table. Kids need to mess up small so they don't mess up big later. Your way works for you, but most teenagers aren't ready to handle bills on their own, they'd blow through rent on DoorDash. The chart gives him a visual of where every dollar goes, and that's way more honest than a monthly bank statement after the damage is done. Plus, "fun money" isn't a secret fund, it's a line item. If he wants more, he earns it. That's not control, that's just how budgets work. Maybe your dad was a jerk about it, but that's a parenting problem, not a pencil problem. Paper doesn't nag, doesn't judge, and doesn't sigh at your pizza purchases. The chart is neutral ground. Try seeing it as a tool to build a skill, not a leash.