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I used to think my aunt was just being cheap about her wedding gift
She gave my cousin $50 for her wedding last year, and everyone was talking about it being too little. But after my cousin told me their mom had borrowed over $2,000 from her and never paid it back, I get it now. The gift was a quiet way to even things out without a big fight. How do you handle money owed by family when a big event comes up?
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rivera.jake5mo ago
My uncle still owes me $300 from when his car broke down in 2021. For his birthday last month, I just got him a card and wrote a nice note instead of a present. It felt like the only way to deal with it without starting an argument. Family money stuff is so tricky, you just have to find your own quiet way through it.
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emma_mitchell4mo ago
That quiet approach just lets the problem keep going, doesn't it? A card feels like letting him off the hook for the real issue. Maybe a direct but calm talk would clear the air better than a smaller gift every year.
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tylerg305mo ago
Man, @rivera.jake, that's a solid move. I had a cousin who borrowed cash for a phone bill and just... forgot. For Christmas, I got him a cheap gas station coffee mug. It was my quiet way of saying I remembered without making a scene. Sometimes you just have to accept the money's gone and let the gift get smaller every year.
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