Figured out the trick to hanging out with busy friends without planning weeks ahead

I used to get annoyed that my friend Sarah would always cancel on dinner plans with a few days notice. But last spring I realized the problem wasn't her, it was the way I was asking. I started just texting her random things like 'I'm gonna grab a sandwich at the deli on 3rd street in 15 minutes if you want to join.' That worked way better because she could check her schedule right then and come if she had a gap. Now I do this with like 5 different friends - I just invite them to whatever I'm already doing when I'm nearby. It sounds dumb but it doubled how often I actually see people in person. Anyone else ditch the rigid planning and just go with random invites?.

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gibson.seth7d agoTop Commenter

Started doing the same thing and it works way better.

aaronf406d ago

Been doing it for years, guess I'm late to the party.